In the middle of this pregnancy, I switched to an office with doctors and midwives. At first, I was skeptical because I worried the midwives would push the all-natural approach.
Positive: The midwife would stay throughout the entire labor instead of popping in and out. They don’t discourage drugs, and they get the doctor if complications arise.
Positive: Upon telling the midwife that my stepsons were born at home and I had no intention of doing that, she said, “Don’t worry. We deliver babies in a hospital…which I will drive to in my car…not ride up to on my horse.”
Negative: The first midwife I met called me fat.
Then I began to worry that all midwives did was criticize my weight. The next few appointments went like this:
- “Your weight gain since the last appointment is a little on the high side, but it’s nothing to be worried about. Plus, Thanksgiving was in there.”
- Nothing said about my weight at the next appointment.
- Again, nothing said about weight.
- “You’ve only put on 2 pounds since your last appointment. Nice job!”
- And at yesterday’s appointment: “You’ve lost 2 pounds.” That was thanks to the cold I had this week, which is why the blog was especially quiet.
Now I suspect they may just be saying nice things because of how fragile pregnant women are in the last few weeks.
- “That you’re still exercising is good. That’ll help during labor.”
- “How tall are you? Taller women usually have an easier labor.”
- “Your baby won’t be huge. Maybe 8.5 pounds.”
And my favorite:
Me: My feet are starting to swell.
Her: That’s totally normal at this stage. Just put your feet up.
Me: I do that. I sit down and watch movies and fold laundry.
Her: No. You need to LAY down and have your feet above your heart.
Me: But then I can’t fold laundry…or do anything.
A prescription/order to do nothing and be lazy. I love it.
Also from yesterday’s appointment: 0 cm dilated and 50% effaced at 37 weeks. That’s not the 8 cm and 80% I was hoping for, but I’ll take it.
February 7th, 2014 at 8:40 am
Laying down with your feet up….isn’t that maybe how you got yourself into the pregnancy predicament to begin with? 😉 😉 😉
February 7th, 2014 at 9:00 am
Actually it was…nevermind.
February 7th, 2014 at 9:01 am
Bazinga! Love this comment 😀
February 7th, 2014 at 8:40 am
Put your feet up and do nothing!!! That is the best.
February 7th, 2014 at 8:44 am
Enjoy that prescription (and maybe ask for a refill?).
I thought you might be without power. Sorry to hear it’s a cold. Feel better soon.
February 7th, 2014 at 9:00 am
Lucky for us, we were only without power for about 5 hours Wednesday night. Of course, it was about the same time my fever hit.
February 7th, 2014 at 8:58 am
I always had more issues with female doctors/midwives discussing my weight then male. It drove me nuts. I loved the icecream diet I was put on. I hated milk and wouldn’t drink it, so my doctor actually told me to eat a bowl of icecream every night. I could have kissed him.
February 10th, 2014 at 8:51 am
I hate milk, too, so I’m self-prescribing the ice cream diet.
February 10th, 2014 at 9:21 am
It’s really the only diet worth going on.
February 7th, 2014 at 9:20 am
Relaxing now is a great idea since pretty soon you won’t have a millisecond to yourself. Word of advice: Don’t get used to relaxing and doing nothing. 😉
February 7th, 2014 at 9:31 am
That’s the kind of prescription I’d like! Shame I have to get myself knocked up first…
February 7th, 2014 at 10:15 am
The feet thing. I don’t know how you ladies deal with that. My sister’s feet were freaking huge by the end. But seriously, I want a doctor to tell me to sit around and not do anything!
February 10th, 2014 at 8:52 am
My feet have gotten anywhere near what I’ve seen some women’s…yet. I think I just jinxed myself.
February 7th, 2014 at 10:29 am
I went to a midwife at my last well visit, and she couldn’t STOP talking about my weight. And I wasn’t even pregnant! Why do they DO that?
You can still sit with your feet up, you just gave to put a bunch of pillows under them. You’ll look like a big V trying to eat the letter O. See? Now you can still do laundry! You’re welcome. 🙂 Er, um…..I’m sorry?
February 7th, 2014 at 12:36 pm
You know, Thoughtsy, I care so much about you that I’m going to be lazy this weekend out of solidarity. You’re welcome.
February 10th, 2014 at 8:55 am
Feel free to be lazy this coming weekend as well.
February 7th, 2014 at 4:46 pm
Relax and enjoy this time, because afterwards, new baby time 😛
Choc Chip Uru
February 7th, 2014 at 11:59 pm
My midwife doesn’t weigh me. She does the tummy measurements and asks about exercise. I’m a bit happy about this because my own weighing has shown a 15kg weight gain (33pound – Yeesh it sounds bad not in the metric system!) since day one. The recommended weight gain is 16kgs total and I still have 10 weeks to go! I think I she was weighing me I’d be getting some telling off.
February 10th, 2014 at 8:56 am
Doesn’t weigh you? THAT’S AWESOME!
February 8th, 2014 at 6:51 am
How can I get myself one of those prescriptions?
Hope you’re putting your feet way up this weekend.
February 8th, 2014 at 10:08 am
Granted this is said with all of the medical knowledge of someone who failed freshman biology, but try the legs up the wall pose from yoga. It feels amazing on my non-preggo feet and ankles when they got sore and swollen, so it might be just the ticket.
And, you can say you are working out while you do it!
Active napping is the best.
February 8th, 2014 at 1:17 pm
Getting close!! Good luck!! When the nurse guessed I would have an 8 or 9 pound baby my whole family was like, “no way!!!!” But sure enough he was 8 lbs. 5 oz!!
February 10th, 2014 at 8:57 am
But you look so tiny! At Friday’s appointment they estimated 7 pounds and 13 ounces for Baby Scout.
February 27th, 2014 at 3:17 pm
I thought so too! Very deceiving!! How far along are you? When are you due?
February 9th, 2014 at 11:56 am
Hope you’re doing well, Thoughtsy. I love that your midwife doesn’t rely on horses to get around. Since the invention of the automobile I think it’s safe to say, it’s so much faster, don’t you think. She’ll be sure to get to the hospital in time for your delivery!
February 10th, 2014 at 8:58 am
A horse in all the snow we’ve been getting seems especially bad. I don’t need cold fingers pressing on my tummy.
February 10th, 2014 at 10:23 am
But don’t follow through to the point you’re standing on your head because I’m pretty sure that’s not good for you.