I thought I’d change it up from all the baby posts and write a wedding post since Kiefer and I are getting married in less than 2 weeks.
Kiefer: A friend wants to know if anyone is throwing us a shower.
Thoughtsy: No. Because I don’t want a bridal shower.
Kiefer: Why not?
Thoughtsy: Why not? Dear God, man, what did you say? Please tell me you didn’t give someone permission to throw us a shower. If you did, YOU can play all the stupid games and open all the presents while everyone stares at you and wear all the bows and ribbons on your head.
I’ll just sit back and eat cake. That’s the only good part about showers.
When would we even have time for a shower? We just moved. We just got back from Greece. Our wedding is in less than a month.
Plus showers are just an excuse to get extra gifts. And we didn’t even register for anything because we already combined two households and we’d rather have money or gift cards for new home improvements.
And I’m totally having a baby shower…minus the games. I feel bad getting gifts at a bridal shower, getting wedding gifts, and then getting baby gifts in a 6-month span. It seems greedy.
Kiefer: You’re making my head hurt.
Thoughtsy: Then I think I’ve made my point.
A friend ended up throwing us a small weddding shower this weekend. It was nice. And most importantly, there were no games.
Thoughts Appear 
August 27th, 2013 at 8:02 am
No games is key. I outlawed games at my showers as well. Also, opening presents while getting stared at. Sadly, I was forced into that tradition by the older female relatives. It sucked just as much as you would imagine.
August 27th, 2013 at 8:04 am
That’s the one thing I hate about German weddings… the games. I’ve already told Jan that in the extremely unlikely event that he ever decides he wants to marry me there will be NO games!!! They are NOT fun, just humiliating.
August 27th, 2013 at 8:05 am
It’s your time to shine thoughtsy!!! I want to know the most important thing, will that wedding cake be made entirely of pop tarts !?! But in all seriousness, it must be so exciting to see it all come together 🙂
August 27th, 2013 at 8:16 am
Poor Keifer. Its not about the presents, its all about the people that are happy for you both and wish to express it….in competitive gift buying of cutesy things for your house. Lots of crystal, picture frames, seasoning racks. You owe it to your friends to allow them to buy you these things. Maybe you’ll even get an ice cream machine and make your own pop-tart flavored ice cream
August 27th, 2013 at 8:20 am
In my opinion, you would totally rock a bow and ribbon hat. But, I distinctly remember a game where I had to answer questions about my future hubby and had to add another piece of bubble gum whenever I got one wrong. I was drooling and looked ridiculous. Maybe you are on to something with these no game showers.
August 27th, 2013 at 8:33 am
Bleh. I hate showers, too. I didn’t have much choice when I got married. I was forced into my showers. Luckily, they were at least open houses, which meant not silly games or bows on the head.
August 27th, 2013 at 8:48 am
I threw a “shower” for my daughter-in-law last year who also absolutely hated the idea of a traditional shower. Instead, we put together a version of The Amazing Race, called it The Amazing Mary(iage) Race (her name is Mary). The ladies were on teams & had to go out to complete a number of stops/challenges based on things around my son & daughter-in-law. We then all met back at our place for dinner & the stories that flowed from the day were hysterical. We asked people to just bring gift cards instead of “gifts” so that there was no gift opening. Just a bunch of women celebrating a bride to be…it was fantastic!
August 27th, 2013 at 9:28 am
It would seem the most awkward part would be the stares! I don’t want any type of showers when the time comes for marriage or baby. I get awkward easily and would rather not have eyes on me. Wow, 2013 is just extra exciting for you 🙂 Happy for you.
August 27th, 2013 at 9:33 am
Never had a bridal shower, not even a baby shower. Apparently it’s something that is not so popular in our area. I would have loved it 😀
August 27th, 2013 at 10:58 am
Agreed…hate showers (all that attention on you, awkward…) and those stupid games. I see I’m not alone. Glad they knew enough not to play any games at yours. 🙂
August 27th, 2013 at 11:16 am
From someone who never had a bridal shower (but has been married twice) and never had a baby shower (but has had four kids): take advantage! It free gifts and food, if nothing else. (Also: I am shocked you didn’t register for an industrial-grade toaster and Pop-Tarts.)
August 27th, 2013 at 12:26 pm
No worries! You’re the bride (or mother-to-be, depending on the shower); you get to make the rules.
(I’m just wondering… at your wedding, I wonder how many people are going to slip sleeves of Pop Tarts into the wedding card box…)
August 27th, 2013 at 12:29 pm
Showers suck. If I had my way, I’d get a card in the mail saying “I’m getting married (having a baby). Please send me $25.98 for the spoon (Or onsie) I bought myself as a gift from you. Thank you.”
August 27th, 2013 at 12:52 pm
Bridal showers are the worst. Dumb games, penis straws … and towels. People will give you towels as if it’s some kind of ironic gift for a bridal shower.
August 27th, 2013 at 1:19 pm
Opening presents with the giver not present robs the giver of his reward! Just saying – I LIKE to see when somebody enjoys my pressies – and I would very much like to know, if I was wrong with a present – to avoid making another one of the same kind.
August 27th, 2013 at 2:01 pm
Glad I’m not the only one who hates showers. Just thinking about them makes me cringe.
Can’t wait to hear about the wedding!
August 27th, 2013 at 2:40 pm
I would have played a game called who can eat cake fastest without a fork. This would give me an excuse to face plant cake in public like I do in private…
August 27th, 2013 at 3:38 pm
You are planning my baby shower.
August 27th, 2013 at 5:57 pm
Wedding showers can be fun when you make them about both of you. (If you weren’t pregnant). beer bongs, Battleshots and strip poker are pretty standard games. Just offering some advice. You’re welcome.
August 28th, 2013 at 1:04 am
You’ve got lots of reasons to celebrate! Enjoy it all!
August 28th, 2013 at 7:16 am
I feel too much like an idiot playing games on a Wii in the comfort of my own home when I’m alone, so playing any sort of game planned by friends is always going to be worse. And might include Wii moves that make me cringe.