Sometimes your knight in shining armor is just a guy in tin foil.
Stupid tin foil…so distracting. Why am I always drawn to shiny things?
I went to my friend Princess’s house the other day, so she could dye my hair. (In case you’re wondering, it’s now red. Indoors it looks normal. Outdoors my hair looks like it is on fire.)
Her sister and mom were there as well. Her mom gave us all some general advice. It went something like this:
You girls…Why do you always need to fix someone? There are plenty of nice men out there who don’t need fixin’.
Was I trying to fix Kiefer? I didn’t realize he was broken. Do commitment issues count as something to fix? Since I want to get married, yes, that’s an issue…for me.
She also said…
Figure out what it is you want, and if he can’t give it to you, find someone who can.
So I thought…what did I want from Kiefer?
I wanted to share my life with him. I wanted to be married and have a family with him, Boo, and Radley.
I waited over 3 years for Kiefer to “be ready” and be “all in.” And he couldn’t give me any of it. I even asked him: “Give me something.” I needed something from him, and he offered nothing.
So now I’m taking comfort in words from The Hipster: