Chapter 11: The New Love Letter

We’re almost done with the Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus blog series.

In this chapter, the author suggests writing what he calls a “love letter” to your partner when you are upset. Here are the sections you should include (in this order):

1. Anger
2. Sad
3. Fear
4. Regret
5. Love

I think we should call this something besides a “love letter.” If I’m getting a “love letter,” it better only be full of loving words.

Let’s call this letter the You-Screwed-Up-And-Made-Me-Sad-But-I-Guess-I-Still-Love-You letter. What? Too long?

If your significant other gives you a YSUAMMSBIGISLY letter, recognize not only how hard it was for your significant other to write, but also that writing makes him or her extra vulnerable so be nice.

Writing takes a long time. If your significant took the time to write you a YSUAMMBIGISLY letter, you probably did something seriously upsetting or hurtful. Maybe write them a real love letter in return.

Lessons Learned

Men, remember that women are vulnerable, sensitive, and delicate creatures. Watch your tone. Like deer, we frighten easily.

Men and Women, speak in a trusting tone. Try not to sound critical or resentful.

Try writing a YSUAMMBIGISLY letter to organize your thoughts.

YSUAMMBIGISLY…it’s catching on already. I can feel it. Let’s not forget the BGLADS acronym while you’re out there dazzling others with your knowledge.