Chapter 5 in the Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus series. The Language Chapter.
Women say, “We never go out.” Men respond with, “We went out last week.”
Men, don’t get defensive. When women say that, they really mean, “I want to go out with you because we have fun together. And I love you.”
Men have their own language. When they say, “It’s no big deal. It’s not a problem,” it is a huge deal and a problem.
After uttering these words, men retreat to the cave because they are upset and have a problem to solve.
Women, just like you don’t abandon a friend in need, you’ll want to help your man and follow him into the cave to talk.
“Abandon hope all ye who enter here.”
Do not go into the cave! Your man wants to figure out his problem all by himself. So abandon him.
Lack of Language
Scenario: Woman speaks. Man remains silent. Woman talks more. Man still remains silent.
Guess what? Men are silent because they are processing. As much as you want to, the solution is not to tell them to “Process faster!”
Men need it all figured out before they speak. Unlike me. I prefer to talk, think I’m all done, and then the next day say, “I forgot to mention….”
Lucky over at Cocktails at Tiffany’s commented that she felt a lot of this book was just creating excuses for men being a-holes. At first, I didn’t see it. Now I do. Take this line for example:
“Women have a lot to learn about men….”
Excuse me? You should have followed that line up with and “Men have equally as much (if not more) to learn about women.” Where’s that line in the book? Jerk….
Now I’m annoyed. Stupid book. Stupid men.
I’ll keep this short due to my annoyed, jaded, and biased state of mind.
Men: Stop being a-holes.
Women: Apparently the magic words in any conversation you have with a man are “It’s not your fault.” I’d like to add on to that phrase though: “It’s not your fault you’re an a-hole.”