This is my third post summarizing Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. If you didn’t read the first two posts, you might want to at least read the warning in this post.
Complaints and Expectations
When woman complain, they want empathy, not solutions.
When men complain, they want acceptance, not solutions.
Why doesn’t anyone want solutions to their problems? People are weird.
Women’s Instincts and Mistakes
Instincts: Women put their relationships first, and they nurture them. Men, we do this because we care about you, not because we’re trying to control you.
Mistakes: None. Just kidding. Women talk too much. By offering a solution, you just reminded a man that he can’t do it by himself. And that makes him feel broken.
Worst Thing Women Say: “You should call a plumber. He’ll know what to do.”
Men’s Instincts and Mistakes
Instincts: Men feel worth through their achievements. That means he likes to put on his big boy undies, a tool belt, and do it himself.
Mistakes: Because men ask for advice (from a pro) only when they are truely stuck, they assume women do the same. Guys, women don’t necessarily want advice. They just want you to listen. Let’s face it, nothing is so simple that it can be solved with “Just do this….”
Worst Thing Men Say: “I’m sorry. Now can we just forget it?”
Men: Put your listening ears on, not your ear muffs. When women complain, just listen. Don’t offer a solution unless she asks for it.
Women: Shut up! When men complain, just listen. Don’t offer any advice unless he asks for it.
Men and Women: Never offer solutions.
Wait…I thought this book was supposed to prove how men and women are different. False advertising!